What to do when you feel like you are ‘not enough’ as an online creative
Why the need for this blog series, you ask?
Because there’s too much noise out there already. Courses that claim to have “proven, step-by-step systems for success”. Blog posts that share the way someone’s made “six figures in only 1 month of blogging”.
Just so you know… you’re good enough just the way you are. You’re an amazing human being with great talents + so much to offer to the world. What you have to offer is enough. You are enough.
And that’s worth celebrating.
Today we dive into the topic of being good enough the way we are.
AM I ENOUGH?
I’ve been discussing this is in my mind for a while.
Rationally I know that I am enough. I know that I’m smart, talented, and capable and for that I’m grateful. Even spiritually I know that every person - including me - is good enough the way they are. I know all of this, but believing it is another story.
There are still a lot of times where I think I’m not going to be good enough at something, so I don't even try. Sometimes I feel like I'm not brave enough, not kind enough, not pretty enough, not talkative enough.
When it comes to my blog + business I feel like I don't have enough time, my writing is not good enough + my opinion doesn't matter enough. It's this cycle of self-doubt.
And I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling this way sometimes.
We live in a world where we’re constantly asked to compare ourselves to others. All too often we are asked to be someone other than who we are. It’s no wonder we then lose ourselves.
Constantly comparing ourselves to other people + the pressure we put on ourselves are the main reasons why we believe we’re not good enough.
WE TEND TO COMPARE OUR BEHIND-THE-SCENES TO THE PERFECTLY-FILTERED + REALITY-ALTERED FEED OF SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE.
It's okay to feel not good enough. At least, on occasion. We are all human. We all have insecurities.
‘What can I do about that?’, you say?
First of all, stop listening to your inner critic. Even though this inner critic seems authoritative and it sounds like it knows what it’s talking about, see it for what it really is: the scared voice of your inner child. With hard work you can learn to listen to your intuition and change your perspective and mindset. You can do this.
Second, stop comparing yourself to other people and start looking up to the right people. Let yourself be inspired and empowered by these role models. Cheer them on. Over time, you’ll start to see that you have what it takes to be just as fabulous as they are.
And if you still want to compare?
Compare you to you.
Ask yourself this: How am I today compared to yesterday? Am I improving and getting closer to where I want to be?
I’m just gonna say this, to inspire and empower, just as much for myself as for you. Know that you are enough. You are important. You are worthy. Exactly as you are. Who you are is enough.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Are you tired of struggling with your need for constant perfection? Need a little help with overcoming your perfectionism, so that you can start making those big ideas you have for your creative business a reality? Then make sure to download my fan-favorite (not to mention FREE!) ‘4 steps to ditch perfect’ workbook.
SO TELL ME, DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH THE FEELING OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH SOMETIMES, TOO?
Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.