How to embrace "good enough" in your creative business

 

If you’ve ever felt not good enough in your creative business (and personal life too) + you have no idea how to deal with these feelings and fears, then stick around because I’m sharing 4 loving reminders for embracing the concept of “good enough”.

Well, this is a fun topic, huh?

We all have that “I’m not good enough” thought from time to time. For you, it might show up as feeling not smart enough, not successful enough, not outgoing enough, not creative enough, not tech-savvy enough…

You feel like you “don’t have it all together” (whatever that means), so you think you’re a failure.

You’ve put in *so much* work but you’re still unhappy with where you are, because you didn’t give yourself any credit for all of the other stuff that “doesn’t count”.

Any of this ring a bell?

We each have our own version of why we think we aren’t good enough. We all do. No matter what yours is, know that it’s just a thought you’re telling yourself. And also know that it’s possible to believe new things.

That’s why, in this blog post, I’m sharing 4 reminders for creatives struggling with feeling not good enough + a few tips and exercises for getting over the fear of not enough and starting to embrace “good enough” in your creative business.

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4 reminders for creatives struggling with feeling not good enough

“Enough” is a funny concept, isn’t it? Because how much is enough? And when is something enough?

Asking yourself these questions can be really helpful. Without defining what enough looks like for you, there’s a danger of blindly pursuing excess in our culture of mindlessly consuming more, more + even more.

It’s okay if your idea of enough looks different from mine. It’s okay if what is enough changes as your needs and circumstances change. Enough changes over time: yesterday’s enough may be too much today.

Less than enough is depriving. More than enough is indulging.

If I were to draw a Venn-diagram, enough would be the sweet spot in the middle. The place where intentionality intersects with contentment.

 
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When you believe that you’re not good enough or that your work will never good enough, you’re depriving yourself. Of progress, fulfilment, contentment, creative flow, inspiration + more.

If that’s the case for you, these 4 reminders can act as a permission slip.

/ 1 / It’s okay to be a beginner

You probably have no problem writing, creating, coaching etc. from a place of authority, but sharing your story, talking about the things you struggle with, or admitting to the fact you haven’t figured it all out is more difficult for you.

You think declaring yourself a capital-e Expert makes you more capable, more qualified, more worthy of a client’s investment, more *enough*.

But here’s the thing: it’s okay to be a beginner at something. It’s okay to start at the beginning + figure things out as you go. It’s okay if that first draft is pretty shitty. It’s okay to sometimes feel like an imposter for doing the work you do. It’s okay to do things imperfectly.

You’re beginning, learning, experimenting, growing… and that is enough.

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/ 2 / Start imperfectly + better will follow

It’s so easy to get in your own way when it comes to bringing your big creative ideas to life. Because what if it’s terrible? What if I don’t have the skills, time, money, or endurance to see it through? What if *I* am not good enough to do this?

Having these “what if?” questions on repeat in your mind isn’t helpful.

If you’re in a place where you’re thinking of pursuing a new creative project, whether it’s starting a new blog, exploring a new creative craft, or maybe launching a new service or offering in your business, remind yourself that it’s best to simply start - even if it’s hesitantly, slowly, or imperfectly - and that better can come later.

Better - not perfect, mind you! - but better *will* follow.

No one hits a hole-in-one right out of the gate, no one gets 1,000 email subscribers in one month, no one has a six-figure launch on their first try (nor should they want to, as I believe in building a slow + sustainable creative business), but when you struggle with feeling not good enough these things are evidence of your “not good enough”-ness + often a reason to give up.

Here’s what I need for you to remember: good enough can only come if you start, take tiny steps to move you forward + keep doing the work to actually become really good at what you do.

Because if you sit around + wait to be good enough, you’ll never actually get there.

/ 3 / Focus on the effort instead of the outcome

Let’s talk about quitting, giving up, or not even getting started a little more…

Do you believe that because you’re not really, really, really good right away, you’ll never get better? You’ll never be successful? Never get it right? And if so, why keep going? What is the point?

Believe me, I get it. I’ve been there. I used to think that if I couldn’t achieve the end result I wanted, it wasn’t worth putting in the effort.

If you’re defeating yourself before you even start, then that’s the end of the conversation. There’s nowhere to go from “I’m not good enough”, because it means you can’t recognize effort and progress and growth.

Running a creative business + living a slow and intentional life will never - and I repeat, never - feel effortless. The effort is the point.

Putting in the effort + experiencing that feeling of getting better with each passing day will actually become kind of addictive. Stop caring about how something feels from the beginning. Focus on the effort you’re putting in, the habit you’re creating, the commitment you’re showing.

Don’t wait for an outcome that may never come or that might look differently from what you imagine. Instead, be in the middle of effort.

/ 4 / Be mindful of your language

Another way the feeling of not being good enough shows up is in our language.

How many times have you said the words “Oh, I just do ...” when explaining your work? Or have you talked about “my little side project” when speaking about your creative business? (Or have let friends or family members talk about it as your “little business” without correcting them?)

For many of us creatives, the belief that who we are + what we do/make/create doesn’t “count” is so deeply ingrained in us. Everybody else counts, but we don’t. We believe that our work doesn’t *really* matter and that it isn’t valuable enough.

Because we’re not in the business of saving the planet - literally or figuratively - we take that to mean that our creative projects have no value at all. It’s why we belittle the work we do. We throw it away as “just” this and “only” that.

So my final reminder for you is to be mindful of the language you use about yourself, your creative work, and/or your business. Catch those words and phrases (“simply”, “all I do is ...”) before you speak them into existence.

Embracing good enough starts with retiring these insidious, belittling words.

 
 
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How to embrace "good enough" in your creative business

So… how to actually embrace this concept of good enough. What to do to start feeling like who you are is enough + what you do matters?

It all starts and ends with managing that critical voice inside your head that keeps telling you that your work isn’t good enough.

Mind you, this is *the* work. It’s tough + will make you feel uncomfortable. Your inner critic has been with you for a long time and so it will take time to get free from those deep-seated thoughts and beliefs. As always, it’s a process + it requires effort. (And effort is *good*, remember? See reminder 3 above.)

These are 4 exercises that can help you out along the way.

/ 1 / Re-create your notion of self-worth

We all struggle with feelings of unworthiness + not feeling good enough from time to time.

When you do, you make up two truths: 1. these things will make me worthy, and 2. not having these things will make me unworthy.

Obviously, the list of what ‘these things’ are will be different from person to person.

“That creative project bombed. I’m not worthy of working with a new client.”

“I asked him/her/them out and he/she/they said no. I don’t deserve to find love.”

You see what happens here?

The inner critic takes a fact (someone turning down your invitation) and turns it into a story that isn’t even true. It uses something that happened to you as evidence of a larger truth: that who you are + what you do isn’t good enough.

It’s important to counteract that message by having a reply ready.

So, we’re going to create an affirmation that you can use in different situations. Here’s the blueprint formula:

 

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[NAME THE SITUATION] [DESCRIBE HOW
YOU FELT], but I’m not going to make it
mean that I’m not worthy.

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“My work project not going as planned sucked, but I’m not going to make it mean that I’m not worthy.”

“Him/her/them saying no to my invitation to go out hurt my feelings, but I’m not going to make it mean that I’m not worthy.”

You can use this affirmation again and again. You just have to tweak it for each specific situation.

Using the affirmation will help you keep perspective + see the situation for what it really is: a single occurrence and not evidence of a larger story.

/ 2 / Question your deep-seated beliefs

The first step in changing any deep-seated belief, like the belief that you’re not good enough, is to begin to question it. How? With the help of a tool called ‘if this, then that’.

You tend to make up a rule or truth: if this happens, then that must be true.

“If I stand up for myself, then people won’t like me.”

“If I don’t make a sale now, then I’ll never make enough money.”

But... here’s the kicker. You can leverage the ‘if this, then that’-tool to your advantage. Just repeat the if-part in the then-part... if that makes sense. These examples might help:

“If I stand up for myself, then I stand up for myself.”

“If I don’t make a sale now, then I won’t make a sale now.”

That’s it. Nothing more.

If something happens, then that doesn’t have to mean anything. This tool will stop that negative voice in your head, because it takes away its power to make up a story.

/ 3 / How do you want to feel?

We can even take the ‘if this, then that’-tool one step further.

In each situation, ask yourself:

 

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How do I want to feel right now? What would I rather believe instead?

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I don’t mean the way your negative self-talk makes you feel (fearful, sad, jealous etc), but I want you to describe how you truly want to feel in that moment or what you truly want to believe about that topic.

For example:

“If I stand up for myself, then I stand up for myself + that makes me feel strong and empowered.”

“If I don’t make a sale now, then I won’t make a sale now + I’m hopeful I’ll make a sale tomorrow.”

Do you see how powerful this is? It’s a hopeful statement that reinforces the fact that you’re in forward motion + making progress.

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/ 4 / Create a progressive statement

Now, it might be that these affirmations don’t quite ring true for you. Especially as you begin to work on managing your inner critic + counteracting your fears and limiting beliefs of not being good enough.

Also, the problem is that if you don’t believe this new thought yet, your inner critic is going to have even more ammo to tear you down. It can easily call bullshit.

That’s why it can be incredibly helpful to build progressive language into these new thoughts. Progressive language indicates motion, effort, and growth.

Preface your new beliefs with something like, “I’m committed to believing that...” or “I’m learning to believe that...”. This helps you keep your new beliefs at the forefront of your mind in a way that’s believable.

In fact, you can use progressive language every time the negative voice inside of your head starts chatting away + you’re looking for a way to stop the chatter.

Here are some more ways to incorporate progressive language in your inner critic-busting arsenal:

“[YOUR NAME], you are committed to feeling like a...”

“I am on my way toward...”

“I am growing into...”

“I am actively working to...”

“I am exploring what it means to...”

“I am figuring out who I am as a...”

Write out your progressive statements + actively start using them.

Bonus tip: write them on a post-it on your desk or save them in a note on your phone, so that you have quick access to them in case you need a reminder.

 
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Are you tired of struggling with your need for constant perfection + feeling not good enough all the time? Need a little help with overcoming these fears and feelings, so that you can start making those big ideas you have for your creative business a reality? Then make sure to download my fan-favorite (not to mention FREE!) ‘4 steps to ditch perfect’ workbook.

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LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENTS, WHICH OF THESE 4 REMINDERS DID YOU NEED TO HEAR TODAY + WHICH EXERCISE ARE YOU EXCITED ABOUT IMPLEMENTING FIRST?

 
 
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Hey, Wendy here!

As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.


 

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Have you ever felt not good enough in your creative business, but you have no idea how to deal with these feelings? In this post, I’m sharing 4 loving reminders for getting over the fear of not being good enough + a few tips to start embracing “good enough” in your creative business #onlinecreatives #creativeentrepreneur #recoveringperfectionist
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Have you ever felt not good enough in your creative business, but you have no idea how to deal with these feelings? In this post, I’m sharing 4 loving reminders for getting over the fear of not being good enough + a few tips to start embracing “good enough” in your creative business #onlinecreatives #creativeentrepreneur #recoveringperfectionist
Have you ever felt not good enough in your creative business, but you have no idea how to deal with these feelings? In this post, I’m sharing 4 loving reminders for getting over the fear of not being good enough + a few tips to start embracing “good enough” in your creative business #onlinecreatives #creativeentrepreneur #recoveringperfectionist
 
 
Have you ever felt not good enough in your creative business, but you have no idea how to deal with these feelings? In this post, I’m sharing 4 loving reminders for getting over the fear of not being good enough + a few tips to start embracing “good enough” in your creative business #onlinecreatives #creativeentrepreneur #recoveringperfectionist
Have you ever felt not good enough in your creative business, but you have no idea how to deal with these feelings? In this post, I’m sharing 4 loving reminders for getting over the fear of not being good enough + a few tips to start embracing “good enough” in your creative business #onlinecreatives #creativeentrepreneur #recoveringperfectionist