Perfect Picks: a weekly roundup of resources for online creatives looking to ditch perfect
Welcome to the first edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each week, I’ll share a few encouraging words + behind-the-scenes insights into my daily perfectionism journal with real-life examples of how I manage when my perfectionism pops up.
Plus, a roundup of useful and inspiring resources for online creatives and recovering perfectionists. Think: practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts + #allthethings I've been loving lately.
Let’s get to it.
Snippets from my perfectionism journal
My perfectionism showed up this week:
when I kept pushing and pushing, trying to make the vision in my head happen, instead of going with the flow. As soon as I gave up my resistance, things started to flow again and my new website came together before I knew it.
around the shame I felt for sweating profusely on the train on my way to a job interview.
by getting hung up on details that I felt like I had to fix. I even restarted my computer to do 'just one more thing'.
Snippets from my gratitude list
This week I was grateful for...
seeing my new website come to life
creatively challenging myself
restraint in my use of color
a great conversation about a possible new job opportunity
making a good impression
having put myself out there
getting a good night's sleep
being warmly and safely tucked into my home during a thunderstorm
writing again and feeling inspired by it
"Waiting sucks. And it’s really hard. Especially if the thing that you’re waiting for is something that you REALLY want. In the waiting, all of your biggest fears can take hold of your imagination."
"I don’t hate the idea of micro blogging, which is basically what most bloggers’ Instagrams are at this point—more than a platform to post photos on, but in a much smaller, more succinct, instant & less attention-demanding than a blog. I just don’t love the idea of it being my main way to connect with followers."
“But the more you learn to become comfortable with making mistakes, the faster and better you learn from your mistakes.”
“Perfection. What a piece of work perfectionism it is! The moment we start wanting everything to be perfect, we get stuck. Perfectionism makes us delay taking action or if we do take action it stops us from following through, because nothing is ever good enough. Nothing is perfect enough. As a creative, you might put in the time and effort to create something wonderful but then never have the courage to put it out into the world because it’s not perfect (which is such a terrible waste of your talent!)”
“Waiting patiently, week after week, knowing restoration is already happening within them. Knowing change is on its way. They do not sow their failures, reap their mistakes. They do not store away each hurt. They do not cater to their wounds and they do not cling to their scars. Instead: they spill their guts, surrender their insides, become reborn. They regenerate, and regenerate again.”
“Society portrays self-confidence and body-confidence very inaccurately. If a woman appears bubbly, positive and upbeat, she is automatically assumed to be confident in her skin. If she dresses a certain way and has the “perfect body,” she is deemed acceptable. But the truth is that you can look great on the outside and still feel insecure. We hear that confidence is key in everything. But what does being confident actually mean?”
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Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.