Perfect Picks #13: a weekly roundup of resources for online creatives looking to ditch perfect
Welcome to this week’s edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each week, I’ll share a few encouraging words + behind-the-scenes insights into my daily perfectionism journal with real-life examples of how I manage when my perfectionism pops up.
Plus, a roundup of useful and inspiring resources for online creatives and recovering perfectionists. Think: practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts + #allthethings I've been loving lately.
Let’s get to it.
perfectly imperfect Encouragement
The thing I've been procrastinating on for weeks now? I just cranked it out in no time at all. A few hours of deep work and it was done. Why do I do this to myself? Argh! I don't mean to be self-critical, but I *know* this. I've learned this lesson before.
Here's what's true for me: it's not about procrastinating about "the thing", but about avoiding dealing with the feeling - like imposter syndrome + fear of success - I know I'll have when it's done. I procrastinate to prevent growth. I only do the thing when the pain of not doing it is bigger than the fear of growth.
I'm curious, what are the deeper feelings + fears behind your procrastination? Share them with me in the comments + what I think you'll see is that these feelings + fears are very common and that you're not alone in dealing with them, my sweet friend!
Snippets from my perfectionism journal
My perfectionism showed up this week...
in an unexpected form: a feeling of FOMO around goal setting. It’s the thing that’s expected at the start of the new year: setting goals, making resolutions, coming up with a word for the year + generally wanting *more* and *different* and *better*. In a way, goal setting is a metaphorical representation of perfection, because it’s what’s expected + celebrated. It’s an easy way to conform, please + find approval. And so, for me, as I don’t want more, different, or better + I’m not into goal setting, it felt like I was missing out. I sat myself down, sat with that anxious feeling for a while + reminded myself to stay true to MY values. And my values don’t include perfection anyway.
Snippets from my gratitude list
This week I was grateful for...
doing something that scared me big time
a fun chat over Zoom
many aha-moments during that chat
taking a slow evening
Here’s my offering of inspiring reads for you this week. As always, take what you need.
By Jessica Rose Williams + Kayte Ferris
"This podcast is for like-minded souls treading their own path to a life a little different – let it be your permission slip, your company on the road, and your reminder that you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about expectations; those we place on ourselves and those that come from external sources."
By Gemma Watts
"I’m a firm believer that our current culture asks us to do more, to be more and to plunge ourselves into the depths of busyness when life is happening all around. True, those moments are helpful to avoid endless days disconnected from the ones that we need most, but what if, just for a second, we gave ourselves permission to listen to the needs of our body, for that day. No forward planning, no feeling guilty of removing ourself for a few days or cancelling plans, but on the hour listening to our body."
By Lucy Lucraft
"Why aren’t we allowed to be less than perfect? Why are we pitted against professionals in podcasting? Expected to be better than in any other content medium. It’s so ungracious. Chatting to my wonderful (and anonymous) friend she pointed out the same criticism, namely that my older episodes aren’t as good, wouldn’t swing in any other form of content creation. Of course, it wouldn’t happen. Imagine someone commenting on a blog post that you’re spelling was a shocker back in the day, or sharing an early Instagram post on stories with the caption: ‘dodgy picture alert!’… I create the podcast for free for the listeners. It takes time, money and effort on my part and that makes it extra shit when I’m told it isn’t good enough. That I’m not good enough I guess."
By Ditch Perfect
“Finding what you love to do and turning it into a creative business is such an uphill battle at first. But... it’s the only way you will learn the ropes + how amazing it will be if you commit to the journey. You may not *feel* ready to pursue the thing, that big idea for your business that you dream about even in the shower, especially in the shower, but believe me, you *are* ready. No matter what crosses your path, it can be handled. If you wait until you’re ready, or that feeling like you know what you’re doing, you’ll absolutely never start.”
By Gemma Watts
"You know how it goes. You’re sat at your desk, watching the hours tick by, thinking of all the things on your to-do list once you walk through the door later that day. Your phone ‘bleeps’ every few minutes; yet another endless reminder of another thing to do, another thing to steal your time. Time comes like a thief. Before you know it another few hours have passed and you find yourself exhausted once more at the end of the day, praying that your alarm doesn’t come too soon. We’ve all been there, friend."
By Lucy Lucraft
"Urgh. Anxiety. So much has been talked about it I imagine you probably didn’t blink when you saw the title of this post. I get it, every celebrity seems to be chatting about their mental health and it’s covered in oh so many magazines too. That’s a good thing, a really good thing. But I understand why people now probably don’t totally understand how hard life can be living with a mental illness."
By Ruth Poundwhite
"Let’s acknowledge how difficult working for and by yourself can be. On the best days it’s overwhelmingly awesome setting your own rules, trying new things, and turning ideas into reality. But on the toughest days it’s paralysing considering all the potential paths and knowing that you are responsible for whatever happens next."
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Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.