Perfect Picks #14: a weekly roundup of resources for online creatives looking to ditch perfect
Welcome to this week’s edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each week, I’ll share a few encouraging words + behind-the-scenes insights into my daily perfectionism journal with real-life examples of how I manage when my perfectionism pops up.
Plus, a roundup of useful and inspiring resources for online creatives and recovering perfectionists. Think: practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts + #allthethings I've been loving lately.
Let’s get to it.
Perfectly imperfect encouragement
You don't need to be perfect to thrive in your work and life. Because you've got what it takes, my sweet friend. You matter. What you have so say matters. And your work matters a whole lot, too. Consider this my permission slip for you to believe that who you are is good enough.
But here's the thing... that permission slip doesn't say it's okay to chicken out. To believe in these lies that say you "need" perfectionism in order to be successful.
Deep down (or maybe not so deep down), you know your perfectionism is holding you back in your creative work and life. But you believe that, in order to give up your perfectionism, you have to give up all the things that set you apart. Your talents, your personality, who you ARE. And so you're stuck.
But here's the flaw in your way of thinking: you don't have to give up who you are in order to give up on your perfectionism. You're the one in charge, your perfectionism isn't.
So what it is that tackling your inner perfectionist, that loud people pleasing, self-doubting, overthinker voice inside, would mean for you? Maybe you could finally start that blog or launch that podcast you've been dreaming about? Or maybe you could create that course or service + make the jump to being a full-time business owner?
I'm rooting for you, my friend! And if you're in need of a little extra support + accountability, I would be honored to work with you to make those big ideas of yours happen. Find out more about working together + apply here.
Snippets from my perfectionism journal
My perfectionism showed up this week:
as doubting myself and wondering whether I was good enough. I spend most of my breaks today staring out of the window, people watching + just recuperating (introvert here!), but I kept wondering if I should start a conversation with a coworker who was on break as well. But I didn't feel like it. I kept thinking, though, that I should have + should be more outgoing.
Snippets from my gratitude list
This week I was grateful for...
finally being able to make an appointment
a lovely conversation with a coworker
my concentration levels being up all day
having prepared for dinner since I knew I'd be home late
soft-boiled eggs on toast
listening to podcasts while cooking
Here’s my offering of inspiring reads for you this week. As always, take what you need.
By Rosie O’Neill
“Whatever method you use for choosing a word, and whatever word you decide on, the real key is actually using it. As with all planning, goal setting or resolutions, a word for 2019 won't do you any good if it's left neatly on the pages of your journal for the year.”
By The Sustainable Edit
“January can be a tough month. What with those pretty twinkling Christmas lights coming down, long cold days, and trying to make December’s pay last long enough. Add it the pressure to make resolutions and lose weight its a tough month. Which is why making time for some self-care is important. I know I’m very guilty of letting looking after myself slide down to the bottom of the priority list. But it really should be right up to top. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.”
By Bless the Weather
“The first thing that became clear to me (thanks journalling, for never failing to give me clarity), was that other than being desperate to have more time to spend with my partner and time all together for us as a family, I have everything else that I have ever wanted. I am truly happy, fulfilled, and have no stresses or worries other than the daily demands of a busy and full life. I don’t need to change my house, my town, my job or anything else to make me happy because I am happy right where I am.”
By Ditch Perfect
“If I had a penny for every time someone (usually one of those fast-talking, Gary Vaynerchuk-esque older white dudes) has told me how I needed to a. stop “trading time for money” or b. quit and work for someone else because my business couldn’t “scale” fast enough, I’d be a very wealthy woman. Some people will think success is all about numbers, money + awards, but for me, it’s about what I’ll leave behind at the end of the day. And right now I’m proud of the work I’m doing and the efforts I’m making to continue to evolve and grow at my own pace.”
By Me & Orla
“How much mental energy do we spend every day worrying about our size, shape, diet and exercise regime? What could we get done in life if this wasn’t occupying so much of our brains?”
By Hannah Bullivant
"In hindsight it was too much. I got sick over Christmas and didn’t give myself enough rest time. But it felt incredibly liberating to do the following: Just take action. Stop pondering. To stop agonising about what my ‘thing’ was. Try some things. Learn again and again to divorce myself from external approval. To hold things lightly. To play. I hold these lessons close to my heart as I look ahead to this year."
By Me & Orla
"The truth is, every time we post is an opportunity to lose followers. Whatever we share that day has the potential to turn a viewer off – to remind them that they don’t connect with us any more, or that they simply feel overwhelmed by how many people they’re following. And that’s fine – in fact, it’s good! Our audience needs to be a finely distilled concentration of the right people, who truly like and engage with whatever we’re doing. Otherwise, what’s the point in building an audience at all?"
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Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.