Perfect Picks #18: a weekly roundup of resources for online creatives looking to ditch perfect
Welcome to this week’s edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each week, I’ll share a few encouraging words + behind-the-scenes insights into my daily perfectionism journal with real-life examples of how I manage when my perfectionism pops up.
Plus, a roundup of useful and inspiring resources for online creatives and recovering perfectionists. Think: practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts + #allthethings I've been loving lately.
Let’s get to it.
perfectly imperfect Encouragement
"The longest journey you take is from your head to your heart." - Mark Nepo
If there's anything these last few months of dealing with chronic illness + a mental health crisis have taught me is how to firmly live from my heart. You see, I used to be a head-person. Even my work of teaching online creatives how to overcome their perfectionism came from reason, rationale, research, facts + frameworks.
But chronic illness doesn't care about reason and facts and all the knowledge I've collected along the way. Dealing with chronic illness is about wisdom, managing feelings and emotions + acceptance of limitations and making the best of the cards you're dealt. Basically, it's living from the heart.
As soon as I realized this, I knew I needed to go deeper in my own journey of overcoming perfectionism AND in my work of helping others do the same.
That's when ditching perfect became a lifestyle. A lifestyle of ditching those people-pleasing, approval-seeking perfectionistic ways, of unrealistic expectations + traditional notions of success. And also, ditching should's, need-to's and must-do's + prioritizing heart over hustle.
Share with me, do you live from your head or from your heart?
Snippets from my perfectionism journal
My perfectionism showed up this week...
when I kept pushing and pushing, trying to make the vision in my head happen, instead of going with the flow. As soon as I gave up my resistance, things started to flow again and this new project I’m working on came together before I knew it.
around the shame I felt for sweating profusely on the train on my way to a job interview.
by getting hung up on details that I felt like I had to fix. I even restarted my computer to do 'just one more thing'.
Snippets from my gratitude list
This week I was grateful for...
seeing this new project come to life
creatively challenging myself
a great conversation about a possible new job opportunity
making a good impression
having put myself out there
getting a good night's sleep
being warmly and safely tucked into my home during a thunderstorm
writing again and feeling inspired by it
Here’s my offering of inspiring reads for you this week. As always, take what you need.
By Field and Nest
"I don’t class myself as an ‘influencer’; I don’t want to label myself as having influence over people to persuade them to purchase things or experiences; instead, I want to inspire people. I am a writer, a photographer, a creative manager, a blogger, and an Instagrammer. I make money from all of these avenues, and sometimes I work with brands to create sponsored content."
By Vix Meldrew
"As soon as we all stop caring about follower growth and instead focus on engaging and being engaged with by ‘our people’ the better off we’ll all be. Stop seeing Instagram as a place to grow a following. Instead see it as somewhere to build relationships, create inspiring content and start discussions. When you do this, a following will naturally grow."
By Rachel Schwartzmann on Create & Cultivate
"Since launching the Slow Stories podcast, I've spoken with leading brand-builders who have collectively alluded to the fact that our current consumption habits are forcing new ways of thinking about content's relationship to sustainability. And when looking back at our first season as a whole, my collective takeaway from these conversations revealed three primary elements that make up the slow content movement today."
By Ditch Perfect
"The thing about perfectionism is that it’s sneaky. Once you deal with it in one area of your life, it pops up in another area. Once I ventured into business with Ditch Perfect + I became a creative business owner, I quickly realized it came with a whole new set of challenges: comparisonitis, FOMO, procrastination, being an absolute beginner, my fear of being visible, having to figure out a daunting pile of technical issues and systems that needed to be implemented + figuring out how to make my own dreams and ambitions for Ditch Perfect a reality. My perfectionism had a field day."
By From Bee with Love
"Once I decided to start calling myself a person rather than a Bookstagrammer, the creativity started to flow a lot more easily. When I stopped asking myself ‘oh, how can I get a book in this?’ I ended up liking the photos a whole lot more and I wasn’t limited on the photos I wanted to take."
By Emmeline Bramble
"I’ve been very busy finding reasons I need to stay inside because things outside are just a little too scary, too much to cope with."
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Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.