Perfect Picks: a weekly roundup of resources for online creatives looking to ditch perfect
Welcome to this week’s edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each week, I’ll share a few encouraging words + behind-the-scenes insights into my daily perfectionism journal with real-life examples of how I manage when my perfectionism pops up.
Plus, a roundup of useful and inspiring resources for online creatives and recovering perfectionists. Think: practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts + #allthethings I've been loving lately.
Let’s get to it.
Snippets from my perfectionism journal
My perfectionism showed up this week:
as wanting my new design templates for Pinterest to be done and "right" right away, instead of allowing time and room for the creative process to breathe. Today is day 2 of my concept templates and I deliberately gave myself more time, however long it takes!
when talking about perfectionism! Trying to tell someone about all that I've learned + my personal story, experiences, and changes made, and feeling like I didn't do a good job. I struggle with telling about what I do with confidence. This time, I took a breath and finished what I wanted to say anyway.
in the form of anxiety and worry about the work decision I'm facing right now. I noticed it, acknowledged it, and decided to trust my intuition. The anxiety still lingers a bit in the background though.
as worrying and feeling a little out of control not knowing how my new jobs will go together and if there will be scheduling conflicts.
I wasn't selected for a job opportunity and I felt the sting of rejection. I'm disappointed, but I also know that I gave it my all and I did the best I could.
Snippets from my gratitude list
This week I was grateful for...
a fun and productive weekend with my mom
another job interview in the pocket
making a good impression and coming across as articulate and enthusiastic
seeing the first color changes on the leafs
gorgeous and colorful sunset skies
the opportunities I'm being given
a sense of relief because things seem to be going my way work-wise
trusting my intuition and that the answer will come to me
a sunny afternoon walk
“Realizing I was spiraling out of control, I took a break and walked over to my window to look out for a minute. I saw some of my neighbor kids playing in the yard - laughing, yelling, playing make believe and running around like their legs couldn’t stop. That’s when a big fat realization hit me… I wanted to run around and scream and play make-believe… but I feel like I “can’t”.”
“The parts of yourself that you’re most afraid to show to others will often be the parts that are embraced with the most love.”
“The most destructive thing I’ve ever done was believe someone else’s opinion of me. To allow someone else’s perspective, story, and limitations impose on the way I wanted to live. To let someone else’s vision become more important than my own. To offer up my freedom or peace of mind in exchange for approval.”
"Perfectionism is one of those identities we can use as an excuse not to show up and do the work. [...] I'd encourage you to not allow your perfectionism to be a bigger part of your identity than your capacity to build something amazing."
“I had had thousands (millions?) of moments in my life when I was judging myself and this was the first one when I realized I had a choice not to.”
“This obsession with easy and glamorous and oh how fun has seeped into our consciousness and affected the way we think about our own life path. Our dreams…shouldn’t they just happen? Shouldn’t laying down and envisioning my ideal future be enough? Should I just start this month and have it all figured out by next month? Nope.”
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Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.