Perfect Picks #9: a weekly roundup of resources for online creatives looking to ditch perfect
Welcome to the first edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each week, I’ll share a few encouraging words + behind-the-scenes insights into my daily perfectionism journal with real-life examples of how I manage when my perfectionism pops up.
Plus, a roundup of useful and inspiring resources for online creatives and recovering perfectionists. Think: practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts + #allthethings I've been loving lately.
Let’s get to it.
Perfectly imperfect encouragement
Do you ever dim your light? My friend @allietymo asked that question recently and it hit me straight in the gut. This theme seems to pop up everywhere for me right now as I've also been chatting with @suziechaney, @girlabouttheyard + @fbarrows about our fear of being seen and our intention of being seen more (and our work being more visible) in the next year.
I think a lot of us online creatives love the *online* part of our work, the fact that there's a computer screen between ourselves and the world around us. That isn't necessarily a bad thing, but there's a danger of us not fully showing up, of giving in to the fear of being visible + seen as we are. And I think we're not talking about this very common, very real struggle enough.
So, let's dish. Do you fear the spotlight? Do you ever dim your light? How are you not being seen right now, online or in real life? And what can you do to be seen more (or for your work to be more visible) in the next year? I'd love for you to set an intention about being seen in the comments. I'll be your cheerleader + accountability buddy along the way.
Snippets from my perfectionism journal
My perfectionism showed up this week:
as not being able to stop ruminating about work. I wake up at night and the first thing on my mind is a thing that happened at work.
as panicking + worrying. I received my work schedule a little later than usual, sending me into a panicked state of worrying. Did I screw up somehow? Did I make a mistake? Do they hate me? Will they fire me? Making it all about me and not considering other explanations or scenarios, that's a familiar pattern for me. And it's all rooted in this perfectionistic fear of not being enough. This morning I received my schedule and I breathed a sigh of relief.
Snippets from my gratitude list
This week I was grateful for...
the most gorgeous + colorful morning sky
my walk home through the park after work
feeling myself settle + recharge during the walk home
a quiet Saturday at home
listening to inspiring podcasts
Here’s my offering of inspiring reads for you this week. As always, take what you need.
By The Daily Pursuit
“When we get out of our own way to make time and space for ourselves we will experience just the opposite. We are able to release the doubt, anxiety, pressure, and concern. You need to give yourself a break because perfectionism only gets the best of us, which doesn’t allow us to create from a space of love and compassion.”
By Man Repeller
"For me, the fear of the unknown never goes away, and as I continue to push myself towards it, I have to remind myself that maybe it isn’t supposed to. For me, growth is about expanding, asking myself where I want to go and what I think it will take to get there, even if it doesn’t feel entirely safe to do so."
By Wit & Delight
"I’ll be honest. My default setting toward myself is, at best, tolerance, and, at worst, merciless judgment. Left unchecked, I talk to myself with a toxic combination of scolding-mother and disdainful-teen. (Why am I so stinkin’ sensitive? Why did I say that dumb thing? How could I possibly lose my cell phone in the house again? Why can’t I keep the bathroom floor clean? Sheesh my hair is ridiculous.) These voices are so natural and familiar to me that, for a long while, I didn’t realize they existed."
By Ditch Perfect
“Another reason I’m so tired of hearing about work-life balance is that balance is presented as yet another measuring stick for us women to measure up to. In our culture, finding balance is presented as searching for something outside of ourselves. It has become this holy grail. If only we seek really hard / spend a lot of time working on it / do more than our very best / are nothing less than perfect, then maybe… just maybe... we can find balance. At least, that’s what they want us to think.”
By Megan Hallier
"But I don’t want to be the kind of person who is so caught up in bubble-wrapping her china bowls that she misses out on communing with friends. I don’t want to become obsessed with collecting things that I lose the chance to build a community that depends on sharing. Too often I think we let our pride, our egos and our desire for perfection to get in the way of real connection. True intimacy. Deep relationship. But I want to learn how to let people in."
By Simply + Fiercely
“In the beginning, the decision to embrace minimalism can be exhilarating. There’s an initial buzz, an excitement we all feel when we decide to take control of our lives, and this fuels our motivation for the first few rounds of decluttering. But as time goes on, this initial motivation often fades. The excitement that comes with anything new has worn off and now it’s time to make the quiet, daily commitment of choosing more of what matters and less of what doesn’t.”
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Hey, Wendy here!
As a perfectionism coach, I help online creatives #ditchperfect, overcome their perfectionism + take action on the big ideas they have for their business. Let’s work together and make those ideas happen.